
Don't worry about what's "normal." If it feels good and no
one is getting hurt (physically or emotionally), enjoy the moment. A
good attitude to have is: try it, you might like it. If you've read
any of the entries here, you'll see that normal encompasses a wide range.
Communicate and be fair with your partner. Not everyone is comfortable
openly discussing sex. If your partner is a bit shy, be patient and
understanding. Often, the best time to discuss sex is outside the bedroom
– not when you're in the midst of love making (saying or doing
the wrong thing during sex can be a real turn off). Offer compromises
or trades ("I'll do that to you, if you do this to me").
There are plenty of sources of sexual inspiration, from books and videos
(see below) to toys. Don't overlook basics like a romatic dinner, a
warm bath together, or a relaxing massage. Play games, have fun, take
your time.
Most importantly, safe sex = fun sex. You don't want to wake up tomorrow
wondering if you've picked up a disease or gotten pregnant. Discuss
and decide on a method of birth control and protection from sexually
transmitted diseases before things get hot and heavy.
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