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Don't worry about what's "normal." If it feels good and no one is getting hurt (physically or emotionally), enjoy the moment. A good attitude to have is: try it, you might like it. If you've read any of the entries here, you'll see that normal encompasses a wide range.
Communicate and be fair with your partner. Not everyone is comfortable openly discussing sex. If your partner is a bit shy, be patient and understanding. Often, the best time to discuss sex is outside the bedroom – not when you're in the midst of love making (saying or doing the wrong thing during sex can be a real turn off). Offer compromises or trades ("I'll do that to you, if you do this to me").
There are plenty of sources of sexual inspiration, from books and videos (see below) to toys. Don't overlook basics like a romatic dinner, a warm bath together, or a relaxing massage. Play games, have fun, take your time.
Most importantly, safe sex = fun sex. You don't want to wake up tomorrow wondering if you've picked up a disease or gotten pregnant. Discuss and decide on a method of birth control and protection from sexually transmitted diseases before things get hot and heavy.
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